COMMITMENT

COMMIT - [kuh-mit]
verb, com-mit-ted, com-mit-ting

to bind or obligate, as by pledge or assurance; pledge: to commit oneself to a promise; to be committed to a course of action.

 

I'm beginning to think people don't know or understand the meaning to that word.  Maybe I'm wrong, maybe they do understand and they just don't care.

 

I was always taught to treat people the way I want to be treated but I've always wanted people to know that I want to be treated the way I treat them yet they don't get it.  So why am I bothering?

 

When you make a commitment to someone, no matter how big or how small, in my opinion, you need to keep that commitment.  Now, I realize that sometimes things, beyond our control, come up and no matter how much you'd like to do what you promised, it's just not possible.  Those situations are not what I'm referring to here.

 

Maybe I shouldn't take it so personally but it pisses me off and honestly, it deeply hurts my feelings.  How hard is it to do what you said you'd do?  If you don't want to do it then when originally asked say "NO".  That concept escapes me too.  People have actually said to me "you're so hard to say no to".  ARE YOU KIDDING ME?  Let me lay this out for you, using that logic.  ***please note I refrained from calling anyone Sparky*** :)

 

I ask you to do something (don't care what it is for this example) and you don't really want to do it but you feel like I'm so hard to say no to so you say yes, even though you don't want to do it.  So, I make my plans accordingly and move forward with my life.  Time gets closer to you doing what I asked you to do and now you say you can't.  Two things happen in that moment, first and foremost......You just said NO to me (wasn't impossible huh?) and second, now I'm screwed because I stopped looking for someone to do it since you said you would so now I'm back to square one except it's probably day of or day before you were going to do whatever I asked of you and so usually I have to cancel my plans or change them.  In case you hadn't noticed......this is what I was trying to avoid in the first place.

 

What am I missing here?  Why do people do this?  All it takes is for someone to leave you high and dry, just once and you should go out of your way not to do the same to other people.  Is that logic too basic?  Are people not capable of this?

 

Now, before I end this blog let me point out something.  Not everyone in my life is this way.  That's right, I'm not saying every person I know doesn't keep their commitments to me (or others) but there are several who don't.

To those who do, please know, I love and adore that personality trait in you!  :)